"C"
is for 'Confucius.' Back in early February 2003 I took the 'Train the Trainer'
course through my local Boy Scout Council. Through the day long training we were
taught how adults learn and how to use various ways to present materials in our
trainings so that all would learn from them. And the core of trainers, leading this training, demonstrated this throughout the whole training . . . not that they were pointing this out to us, but I had noticed the different approaches they were using.
Early
on in the training one of the trainers asked if anyone knew 'ASL,' American Sign
Language. I slowly began to raise my hand and the other 4 or 5 Scouters (Adult Scout
Leaders) at my table told me NOT to do it, to keep my hand down. I told them I had
to raise my hand, as a Scout is 'honest.' I was the only one of the 15 or so Scouters
taking the course that did! I had no idea why the trainer asked this, wondered if it might be because they had a Scout or Scouter somewhere who needed someone to sign something to them. Nothing more was said at this time.
A
couple of hours later, those at my table were asked to leave the training room to
go work on something. We went to the other side of the Council Office and sat down
around a conference table with one of the trainers. He had a Confucius saying written
on a large chart and he told us that he was going to teach us to sign it, using
ASL. The moans and groans around the table from my fellow Scouters was loud and
clear and they all turned and looked at me and blamed me for this. I, on the other
hand, was excited! I had taken a class, taught by one of the other employees in my department
at American States Insurance Company, through 'Free University' back around 1981
or 1982, and learned some sign language.
The
trainer went on to tell us that his wife, taught him how to sign this and
so now he was going to teach us. He showed us how to sign each word and described
how each sign is done. Later he gave us a sheet of paper which described how each
sign was made. We did the signs along with him and had time to practice as a group
and on our own.
I
was the only one who seemed to take this seriously. I didn't know any of the others
taking this training - they were from other parts of the Council, and I only knew
two of the trainers. I had just driven about 45 miles one-way from my home
to the Council Office in a heavy snow, something I don't like to do, slipping and sliding along the way. A normal drive that I can do in an hour or a bit
less took me over two and a half hours that morning! I was determined that I was
going to complete the course and 'pass,' and not have to come back a second time! Little did I know that all one had to do
was to show up and appear to participate.
The
rest of my group ended up having a conversation about something they were doing in
their District, which I knew nothing about and didn't really care about, so I spun
around in my chair and worked on learning this Confucius saying as I looked at the
snow, still falling down on the woods out back.
About
15-20 minutes after we had been pulled out, another table of Scouters came out and
they went and sat in the Library, just down the hall from where we were. I expected
they were going to learn something else that they would share with us later. That we would have a chance to be the 'trainers.'
After
45 minutes or so we were reunited in the training room. The trainers talked a bit
and then said that each of our 'table groups' was going to share what we had learned. Just as I had thought, right? Wrong!
The first group to share was the group that had stayed in the training room - OK
I get it, we were all taught a different form of sign language! Nope. Next was the
other group that had meet in the library. OK, looked a bit like what we had learned,
but not really. Then it was my groups turn . . . I was ready! Hummmm, seems I was
the only one who was ready - the rest of my group had no clue - I stood there and
I signed the whole thing, rather easily! I impressed myself.
The
'lesson' here was in the words of the Confucius saying we were signing:
'Tell
me and I forget.
Show
me and I understand.
But,
let me and I remember.'
This
very simple Confucius saying was to help us see, understand and remind us how adults
learn. Some learn best though 'lecture' or hearing, others through 'demonstration'
or watching/seeing and yet others through 'hands-on' or doing it themselves. Most of
us, however, learn best through some combination of these three.
As I woke up this morning, or should I say while I was still half asleep this morning, I was thinking about this commitment that I have made this year,
to blog the Quaker Alphabet, and this Confucius saying popped into my head - the
connection between the two didn't take long for me to see. And that this Confucius
saying needed to be included in my Quaker Alphabet, it did seem to fit. Why?????
Like
I said earlier, this Confucius saying was taught to us to help remember how adults
learn. My group was given it all - we were told how to do the signs, we were shown
how to do them, we had a paper with the signs described on them and we were allowed
lots of time to practice them with someone who knew how to do them and could help
us - all we had to do was to ask. The second group was told how to do the signs and had the paper and time to
figure it out together. The third group just had the paper and they were on their
own to figure it out. Each group was also given a different amount of time to complete the learning task.
I've
said it several times, this was a training to teach us how to train other Scout
leaders, give us the tools we needed, to learn how adults learn but more importantly how to present the material in a variety of formats so that all could learn from it. I think the same
can and should be applied to children as well - they don't all learn the same way
either.
So,
why have I felt so strongly lead to share this story here. Well, the way I see it, it's
how we learn and understand our faith as well, isn't it? One way doesn't work for
all and sharing our faith in different ways helps others to understand it.
We
can read and listen till we 'turn blue in the face' or 'till the cows come home.' But not everyone and not every concept can or is understood just by reading it. We can read our Bibles,
the journals of George Fox and other early Quakers and other Quaker writings
- but do we all understand it? Is it all always
'clear as mud?' No, it's all left up to different interpretations - not all Quakers
think exactly the same or do things the same - we are a rather diverse faith as
can be seen in our theology and in the ways we worship - unprogrammed and programmed.
We
also learn by example - seeing others in worship, living their faith and talking about their faith. Some concepts
are more easily understood when we see them being done. I am a convinced Friend and I come from a programmed
Meeting. I was first exposed to unprogrammed worship when I first met with a group
of Scouting Friends in April of 2007 - during the business meeting. Last February
I was invited to join a local worship group that sits in expectant waiting. And
this last summer I went on a Pilgrimage with and among Friends through Ireland/Northern
Ireland - among unprogrammed Friends, for two weeks - an amazing journey! I learned
so much not just about my Irish Friends but about Spirit lead vocal ministry along the way. A different group/gathering of Friends doing what I had heard about and experienced (or so I thought) in a very limited way in my programmed Meeting, with Scouting Friends at the end of our business meetings and among a group of other programmed Friends in a worship group.
By
doing and living our faith - doing it out in the open, publicly if you will, we are 'teaching' others around us. Through our sharing and interaction, we learn so much more - more about ourselves,
our faith - what it is to be Quaker . . . we learn to understand.
I
love to learn, I don't like to read. I love to talk and share - during a conversation
with a Friend last spring, about my going on the Pilgrimage to Ireland, said she
hoped what I got out of this experience was
that I would ". . . learn to shut up and listen!" OUCH! "That you will
learn to shut up and stop telling 'Luanne stories,' and listen to what others have
to say." But . . . I have and do listen and I do know what's going on. When I shared with
my Meeting in September, after I had returned from the Pilgrimage, I shared that
I had learned to listen - I learned it was so much easier to listen, to really listen, when
everyone else around me was quiet and listening too. Listening to that still small
voice, the voice of the Holy Spirit, the voice of God . . . which isn't always so still and small!
It's
been ten years since I learned this Confucius saying, the spoken words and the signs
. . . I still remember the words and I can still sign it.
What
are your words and actions telling others, around you, about your faith? What 'lessons'
are others around you trying to share with you - about their faith - Quaker or otherwise? Are you listening? Are you learning? What have you heard today, this week that you need to learn and remember?